The Real Me Is Truth and Love

Parenting is a truely hard journey to undertake especially when we are immature, or ignorant.  I guess you can take becoming a parent down two different routes.  Either you truely let the child in and understand what it means to raise another human being from scratch, or you raise them as a necessary/unecessary part of your life depending on your mood and schedule.  Love and hug them when you feel like it but scream at them when they want  your attention and you don't feel like giving it.

The immature parent has to play out the rest of their own childhood before they can truely become parents,  Some never live out their own childhood and they never grow older in anything but age.  Mentally they are still children and they are usually found hanging out and doing things that the young and childless should enjoy.  They party hard all night when they should be home with their children getting ready work in the morning.  Some even go to the extremes of party-ing with their children at their own kiddie events.  If we don't grow up and become mature parents then how do we expect or children to mature into responsible adults.  We joke about the Government watching us, but the truth is, our kids watch us even closer.  They are our most determined spies and they see everything we do and don't do on a daily basis.

Some parents are mature and responsible but surprisingly ignorant of what it takes to parent a child.  Each of our parenting theories and goals come from a combination of perhaps our own past and current theories on childrearing. Depending on our own beleifs and education we shape our children to be much like ourselves.  The problem with this mode of learning is that it follows to reason, if the parent is lost and ignorant then so will the child they produce.  If your morals are misguided then can you guide your children down the right path?  For that matter do you even know what morals you inherited from your own parents?  Have you ever questioned your particular way of life and wondered why it is so? 

I think the first step on your mental parenting journey should be to doubt and question every beleif and thought you ever had.  If you live your life in one way, don't be afraid to question why.  Quesions every action taken by you and those around you, and establish your own mode of conduct.  If things are done in the wrong way for you then don't be afaid to make it right. Becoming a parent is a chance to start your own life over, branch off on a new journey with someone new.  Each day they grow they learn something new about this world, their eyes are opened more and more, open your eyes too.

Valentines Day is a big day for almost every woman imaginable but have we asked ourselves why?  I mean I like flowers as much as the next girl but I hate the anxiety that can build up over it.  I mean your guy expects that you expect something really great and you really do want him to plan something spectacular.  Your half disappointed if he does something smaller than the big little image you had in the back of your mind,but you don't really care because hey, at least he remembered and thought of anything at all right?

So I ask,  What the point of all this insanity?  I mean I never know what going on in my own head much less a guys head.  I don't even know what I want sometimes out of Valentines Day.  I think I bought into the whole flowers, chocolate, present thing without wondering where the desire originally came from.  I mean It doesn't really matter what day he gives you a present on does it?  I mean  present any day,and its give me, give me" right? Not "no honey wait until Valentines Days" lol. So who care about Valentines Day and why?  If he wait until Valentines Day specifically to show his love then maybe it doesn't go down to the deepest levels that would make him choose everyday to show you.

 Valentines Day is the way true Capitalist Express Love :)

We are all born with a unique spirit that makes us special.  Just look around you at any baby or small child and you know that the spotlight they have now, you once had.   You were once considered smart when you learned how to say "da da" or wave by by.  You were thought to be special when you walked before your first birthday or learned to read etc etc.  You have a circle or family, coworkers, friends, children, or whatever, the point is you belong somewhere and people know your name.  They text you on holidays and hang out with you on birthdays and your enmeshed in their world, and they in yours.

 Everyone has these social and familiar structures according to their class and social status.  Inside of these groups the individual shines, yes indeed to these people you are somebody.  But what happens when you step outside of your own social group.  You could be the it factor to your group,  you could expect to be treated with a certain amount of respect based on your own status within your own group but can you really expect a stranger to "know who you are?"  I mean think about it,  If I never say your face a day in my life how can I know that I better "recognize". How can you take the rules of your group and apply them to total strangers.  A total stranger is a Nobody to you and it the same in reverse, you are a Nobody to them. 

We can always learn to treat each other with basic kindness and respect.  Put our own sense of self aside and respond to each other as human beings,  Understand that at the end of the day it doesn't matter who you are, everyone is a Somebody to their family and loved ones.  Everyone shines in their own little way.  Lets all respect that and we may make this world a better place for our families yet.