The Real Me Is Truth and Love

Parenting is a truely hard journey to undertake especially when we are immature, or ignorant.  I guess you can take becoming a parent down two different routes.  Either you truely let the child in and understand what it means to raise another human being from scratch, or you raise them as a necessary/unecessary part of your life depending on your mood and schedule.  Love and hug them when you feel like it but scream at them when they want  your attention and you don't feel like giving it.

The immature parent has to play out the rest of their own childhood before they can truely become parents,  Some never live out their own childhood and they never grow older in anything but age.  Mentally they are still children and they are usually found hanging out and doing things that the young and childless should enjoy.  They party hard all night when they should be home with their children getting ready work in the morning.  Some even go to the extremes of party-ing with their children at their own kiddie events.  If we don't grow up and become mature parents then how do we expect or children to mature into responsible adults.  We joke about the Government watching us, but the truth is, our kids watch us even closer.  They are our most determined spies and they see everything we do and don't do on a daily basis.

Some parents are mature and responsible but surprisingly ignorant of what it takes to parent a child.  Each of our parenting theories and goals come from a combination of perhaps our own past and current theories on childrearing. Depending on our own beleifs and education we shape our children to be much like ourselves.  The problem with this mode of learning is that it follows to reason, if the parent is lost and ignorant then so will the child they produce.  If your morals are misguided then can you guide your children down the right path?  For that matter do you even know what morals you inherited from your own parents?  Have you ever questioned your particular way of life and wondered why it is so? 

I think the first step on your mental parenting journey should be to doubt and question every beleif and thought you ever had.  If you live your life in one way, don't be afraid to question why.  Quesions every action taken by you and those around you, and establish your own mode of conduct.  If things are done in the wrong way for you then don't be afaid to make it right. Becoming a parent is a chance to start your own life over, branch off on a new journey with someone new.  Each day they grow they learn something new about this world, their eyes are opened more and more, open your eyes too.